Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Making it Bad?

No, I'm not worrying.  I was pondering something while I was on my way home yesterday, all last night, and while I was at work today.  Yeah, it sounds like worrying.  Really I was wondering if THE BOYFRIEND had to drive up to GA to visit with his family.  What I really wanted to do was be able to spend some quality alone time with him, since I barely get to anymore.  And out of that I realized that my reasoning had to do with the last good boyfriend that I had.  He broke up with me because we weren't having sex as much as he wanted.  Yeah, he admitted later that it was a jerk move, and we are friends.  But I brought up the quandry to THE BOYFRIEND while I spoke to him on my lunch break.  Went more like this:
"So, I was wondering if you want to go to GA this weekend.  I mean, Zach can leave and we could have the whole house to ourselves for a day."
"Yes, I want to go to GA."
At this point I was thinking "I just suggested we could spend the whole day with each other without roommates getting in the way, and he wants to go to GA."  So then I go into my explanation to the query.
"I would like to be able to spend the day with you alone, especially considering all the time that I get lately is 45 minutes or less when you are getting ready for work."
"..."
"What I'm getting at is I ... Oh gee, I hate saying this because now I feel like an idiot...  I'm just wondering if you are happy with our physical relationship."
"..."
"Do you get what I'm saying?"
"... I get what you are saying now.  And I don't think this is a conversation we should be having over the phone."
"Yes, I agree we should actually talk about this in person.  But that's my point.  When do we actually get time when you are not getting ready for work?"
"I know."
So this is when I brought up the quandry I previously put before myself.
"And I know that you don't have the time or necessarily the desire to look for someone else on the side.  I guess what I'm getting at here is that I don't want you to break up with me because we aren't as physical as you want."
"No, I'm not going to do that.  You shouldn't worry so much.  I wouldn't do that."
"I"m not necessarily worrying.  Just thinking.  Because you are so good to me and for me, and I am good to you and for you.  We work so well together.  I just don't want it to end because of something like that.  Because I have had that happen to me.  With a boyfriend who was good to me.  I.... I just want you to be happy." 
You know I put everything on the line to be with him, even after just spending barely two months with him.  I decided to stay here in town.  I decided to give up my TV career and look/train for something else so I can be with him.  The last thing that I need is for him to break up with me because we aren't having as much sex as he wants.  And I hope he realizes that.  I know he isn't good with subtlety.   But he damn well better realize that is what I'm getting at with this whole query.
"Get some sleep.  I gotta go back in from my break soon.  I love you.  We'll talk about this later."
"And I love you.  Go be productive." 
I go about my work, a stormy cloud hanging over my head (very visibly too.  My manager actually asked me if anything was wrong).  It's 7:30pm.  Waiting another hour before he's gotta wake up and maybe we'll talk.  But who knows.  His morning routine doesn't lend too much to talking.   And that's IF he wakes up at 8:45.  He might drag it out until 9 p.m.

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